See how Mediator works

Whether you're thinking through your own side or ready to invite the other person — here's the whole flow.

Start with your own side — Opening chat with user describing their situation — Tell Mediator what's going on, in your own words — the way you'd describe it to a friend.

Invite them if it would help — Invite link generated and ready to share — Share a link. They join on their own device — neither of you ever sees the other's private conversation with the mediator.

Each side is interviewed privately — Private interview, position document taking shape — The assistant talks to each of you separately, asking the questions that matter, and turns what you said into a clear position document — yours alone, yours to review and edit.

Approve your side when you're ready — 'Approve' button on the position document — You each approve your own position document when it says what you mean. Nothing is used to draft the agreement until you've both approved.

Mediator drafts an agreement — Draft agreement shown in the app — After a few minutes, Mediator drafts several candidate agreements, weighs each against both positions, and picks the strongest fit, often including elements neither of you had proposed. You'll both get an email when it's ready.

You each decide. Independently. — Accept / decline choice, per participant — No commitment until you've seen the agreement. Each of you decides separately, privately — if either says no, nothing is locked in.

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Curious how it plays out?

Read this example in full: why neither side could start the conversation, what Mediator surfaced privately, and the agreement they both accepted.

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Who pays?

Only the person who starts the mediation. The other participant joins without adding a balance themselves.

Want to understand the math?

Read how Nash bargaining makes this work →